Living Without Judgement

I had this great talk tonight with my friend Christina, about the make-up of a great relationship. We discussed the usual suspects: trust, commonality, and ease of communication. We always have complete thoughts in conversation form, me and her. That's why I appreciate our relationship, among other reasons.

But as I'm lying down, before sleep, I'm thinking about how relationships can be so varied. There are just so many types of them, running a wide, wide spectrum of labels and description. We have these connections for so many reasons, and many times we don't even know what the reason is. Paradoxically, ambiguity runs rampant in the most meaningful parts of our lives. I have a sense, though, that there is at least one feature of relationships that will almost always contribute to failure. And its probably true across all these types. 

Relationships are the pathway of expression. When we expose ourselves to or create any type of symbol (art), we're enabling our subjective to become objective (experience). What is on the inside is expressed, even if we were previously unconscious of those parts. So, the ideal situation for love is one in which we experience the BEST PART OF OURSELVES; the best part of "one's self" is that part which is the most true, beautiful, and good - LOVE itself. The ideal relationship expresses an inner love that reaches across all things and beings.

So what is this feature of not-so-ideal relationships? If experience is always a personal expression (in the beginning, I AM), then what is it that allows us to experience the worst parts of ourselves? 

Well, are there any parts which are not LOVE?